5. Yes I would build a manifold that provides a gate valve for each line coming out of the pump. It just gives you the flexibility to tweak the flow along each line. I would also consider adding 1 extra outlet for future expansion (e.g. for media reactors, etc.).
6. If your pump will be external (outside sump) I would put a shut-off valve to allow you to remove the pump for maintenance. If it is submersible, then I wouldn't bother since each line has its own valve. In an emergency just unplug the pump instead of choking it down completely.
Make sure and make a good list since lowes is far away. I like to dry fit my valves, tees, elbows etc at the store to make sure everything fits as expected. Don't forget small things like the teflon tape, pvc glue, clamps for the tubing, etc. It seems that it almost always requires an additional trip to the store for that small thing you forgot.
Good luck and have fun!