Ryan I've been watching your thread pretty much since you've started and here's my advice from a fellow person who just can't leave it alone...
I left my tank in mid august and moved 1600 miles down to miami and left my mom and my apex in charge of my tank, she feeds once a day, keeps an eye out for fallen coral and changes the carbon/gfo once every 2-4 weeks. My corals have gone NUTS since I left, as I stopped messing with things and just let it grow. My acros which refused to grow are now about to hit the glass after only 3 months...I know it feels like you can always make something better, make a change to just this that or the other, but why not actually try stepping back. I think thats the only thing you havent done. Your methods, equipment etc can only do so much, but in the end, the only thing that causes coral growth is you guessed it...the CORALS growing. Not adjusting a reflector or a dosage or anything. Just letting nature be nature.
So there's my more than 2 cents, I look forward to watching your tank grow as I think it has a ton of potential.