Alex,
One thing you need to work on in this hobby is patience! Without patience you will not have a successful reef. Try to read as much as you can, visit your LFS and ask questions. Experience cannot be rushed - it's acquired slowly. We all made our mistakes and learned from them. My parents bought my first fresh water aquarium (10 gal) when I was in grade school. I have kept fresh water fish for the next 20 years until I moved on to salt water fish. Now I have a successful 60 gal reef tank (2 years now) and except for 2 dead damsels in the beginning I have not had a single fatality
Remember - every single fish, snail, crab, anemone, coral is alive and should be given your utmost care. Without respect for life you shouldn't be in this hobby. Believe me - size of the tank will not make your problems go away. It will just make for even bigger problems and issues, not mentioning a huge expense simply maintaining it.
60 gal reef
-1 three-stripped damsel
-2 false percula clowns hosted in BTA
-1 purple pseudochromis
-1 yellow sailfin tang
-various snails, hermit crabs, shrimps, emerald crab, sea urchin etc...
-various mushrooms, polyps, leathers and softies...
-small brown monti SPS
-Rob