First thanks to all for taking the time to reply and provide the advice. I plan to take it, so here's my plan...
Water 1st - going to make a RO/DI, refractometer, and ATO (after a little research on brands) my first purchases. A controllable LED is on my longer range list - so many choices with different specs., quality differences, and high cost make it tough to pin down what I want/need and I fear making the wrong choice. I am planning to buy an APEX controller in the longer range future, so any equipment that I buy, I will shoot for it to be compatible.
A couple of clarifications and questions -
Automatic feeder - I feed flake very sparingly twice a day. I was under the possible misconception that the fish need more small multiple feedings daily and thats one of the reasons I thought I needed one. Not true? *** I do feed the fish shavings of the frozen cubes in lieu of flakes every two to three days as well as the shrimp (aka Merlot) and anemone.
Ah the anemone (aka Brut) - My second mistake in this learning process. I thought I was so good at being patient, curing the dry rock for nine weeks with no fish and a few live rocks (a fishless cycle). It really killed me seeing the empty tank. So it was time to stock and yes, impulse and temptation got to me. After I got him home and started researching what he needed, I realized that he was purchased too soon. I was panicked, stressed, and felt very guilty about getting into this situation. The exact opposite of how fish tanks usually make me feel. He had some moments - stretching, shriveling, moving around. Despite my initial poor planning, he is now doing really well. I have been feeding him lightly about a 1/3 of a cube via a turkey baster every 4-6 days. He really looks great and his color is getting better and better. I think the Aqueon LED is only 10 watts total, but it seems to be okay for him right now. He also keeps me very dilligent on the tank maintenance/testing.
Onto a question about the lights. I have a 48 in 4 tube T5 light fixture that currently has 2 tubes that are 54 watts and 2 tubes that I cant find a stamp on. Its housed in heavy aluminum. It is bright! When I bought it used with my 75g, I was told it was a Catalina. Could this be a good light for my 75?*** (I still want LEDS though in the long run) And as far as the question on when I am going to upgrade, it is pending on me painting the room its going in. It's not a drilled tank either, and I believe that is one of the things I need to do before its put into place. Also would have to venture into the realm of a sump/refugium then and I just haven't researched that much yet. So being realistic, it would be several months from now.
Finally, I am heeding the advice on holding off on more fish, however wouldn't it would be a good idea to get something to pick at the bottom? CUC? Suggestions? ***